What is a person supposed to do when they realize they have been deceived? I call the events right after the first realization an age of disillusionment. I have been through several ages of disillusionment so much so that I now know there is some place I am being deceived and walk in it. The important thing is what will I do or what will you do when you become aware of a deception or untruth you are living under.
At first, when I first started going through these ages of disillusionment I wasted a lot of time trying to find out how I got into the deception and who it was that put me there. Who lied to me? Who? I know now it really does not matter how you got into the quick sand. How are you going to get out? What solid ground can you find to catapult yourself out of the lies and get away from the liars.
Once you yank your head around and scramble your way out the next thing is to keep going. DO NOT try to go back and save anyone you have just left behind. They do not have the blessing you have of being disillusioned……… being brought the knowledge of the truth what you were doing or believing is wrong. They are still caught up in it. They will try to capture you again. You will be casting the pearls you have received before swine.
Then be sure and FORGIVE YOURSELF for the time you were walking deceived. Self recrimination is never good. Forgiving yourself is harder to do than forgiving another because we all believe we are better than that. When we find out we are not better than this or that deception, then turning that anger we feel at being deceived in on ourselves is counterproductive and can lead you down a dark rabbit hole. Anger turned in on ourselves is depression. Self recrimination does not serve you to move you forward. Take a few hours. No more than a weekend and track down every aspect of your body and soul the deception works in and through and reject it. Loose it. Put something else there in its place. It is critically important to put something else there, fill the void left by the deception, with something else IMMEDIATELY because you are vulnerable at this time. That deception will try to come back on you. If you do not have something else there in its place, it will take over your life again and this time it will be 10 times harder to ESCAPE. IF the opportunity to escape ever arises again…..
Being deceived is not the same as someone “disappointing you”. People disappoint each other all the time. We do not measure up to what we thought they would be or do. We do not show up at a football game or a practice. We do not do something we said we would do. Or we find out our parents have faults. That is not what I am talking about here.
Deception has a specific malice of forethought from an evil intent to draw someone away from truth. Once you know something is false, turn immediately to truth.
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